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That is what it is. We can’t change it. We just have to decide how we will respond. We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.

The way wounds heal is a miracle. Inevitably, they heal on their own. All we have to do is not let our hungry egos demand that the pain go away on a certain timetable. We need to have faith that the pain will pass. After all, pain is an emotion and no emotion stays forever.

You will meet some well-meaning people who think they know ways that you can heal more quickly and feel less pain. They may be eager to suggest those ways and may even insist there are things you “should do.” They do, indeed, mean well, and most are acting out of genuine caring. Nevertheless, remember that everything a physical wound needs to heal is already there in the body. Oxygen, blood, nutrients are all in there, ready to begin their work. And the moment you are wounded, the healing begins.

Emotional wounds are the same. Sometimes the wounds do not heal because the mind gets all involved and says things like “I should do this and I will feel better,” or “Maybe I could do that to repair the damage,” or I am hurting because of what another person did, and once they fix it, I will feel better.”

All of this mind talk just interferes with the natural healing process. When one feels deeply hurt, one have everything one needs in yourself to repair the damage. One wants compassion, understanding, and nurturing in order to heal. But most of all, one needs time.

When I am in a dark tunnel, I want to be with people who love me enough to sit in the darkness with me and not stand outside telling me how to get out. I think that’s what we want.

When you are hurt, be close to people who love you and who can tolerate your pain without passing judgment or giving your advice. As time passes, you will long less for what you had yesterday and experience more of what you have today.

Tough times won’t last but tough people do.




its been exactly a year since i gave you that letter, yet there is still no response.